Is Your Relationship Struggling or You're Just Growing? The Real Truth Behind Masculine & Feminine Energies

by Martina R

Even if you don't know anything about masculine and feminine energy, how they work, what they are, or even about energies at all, don't worry. You will understand all that will be said in this piece of art (blog):)

Let me start with a short story:

When me and Tomash met in July 2020, the whole thing started as one massive paradox. And it wasn't easy.

On one hand, the time has stopped.
On the other hand, something completely mysterious underneath the time and space got activated in each of us into such an unknown, stretchy level, that without realizing it, our whole lives started to uncontrollably speed up, evolve and expand.

It was like we were 2 walls made out of puzzle and someone smashed them both at once, intensely & painfully trying to combine & piece them together without manual.

Little did we know, we were in for a ride of our lives.

Ride of healing, growth, and rediscovery of the infinite power of choosing to create conscious relationship.

Two things have been happening simultaneously for us:

We have naturally & effortlessly excelled in those "technical, practical, business" stuff,
Yet we have been experiencing massive challenges, pain and expansion in that more "emotional, psychological, softer" part of the relationship.

Until we learned that the practical "technical stuff" represent the MASCULINE energy, and the "emotional part" is the FEMININE energy.

The masculine side is all about action, strength, structure and protecting what we care about. It’s the go-getter energy that pushes forward and helps us tackle whatever comes our way.
The feminine side is softer - it’s full of intuition, emotions, creativity, and nurturing vibes. It’s that loving energy that creates love, flow, harmony, and warmth in life.

Now, the truth is, both me and Tomash, you and your partner, every human on planet Earth - we all have a beautiful blend of masculine and feminine energies inside of us, no matter who we are and regardless of our gender or age.

There are usually 2 scenarios:

When these energies are balanced, both within ourselves and in our relationship, something magical happens: we connect on a profound, deeper level, where each partner complements the other and lifts the other up, creating a beautiful space for growth, love, and understanding.
When these energies are out of balance, we experience emotional pain, feelings of loneliness, the frustration of miscommunication, and the fear that love may AGAIN go away. We fight, feel angry, sad, given up, lost, or even can fall physically sick. I mean, you get the point

If we lived in the perfect world, under perfect circumstances and environment, we COULD potentially have these energies balanced within ourselves and with our partner from day 1.

HOWEVER..

We all know that life is this beautiful, magical, messy process where no one has it figured out and balance is not yet "the sweet default" on this planet, and so it is what we all consciously or unconsciously - strive for. Both within ourselves, and in our relationships.

As a result of this misbalance in our relationships (and not knowing how to handle it because we don't learn this at school or from our parents), we often ask ourselves:

Why isn’t our relationship as effortless as it was in the beginning?
Where has our fun & joy gone?
Is it time to break up?

And we know it firsthand - this process can be truly UGLY.

Good news tho!

Those icky, yucky, dense energy full of anger, resistance and mismatch you may be feeling between you and your partner now, always, or maybe just from time to time:

is nothing else but the TUNING & BALANCING PROCESS of these 2 energies within each of you AND between the two of you.

Phew!

What a relief.

It's not that you don't belong together!

It's just that your energies are LEARNING how to dance together seamlessly and elegantly, but first they need to crush and adjust - THAT'S ALL!

Unfortunately, people often times mistaken this phase of a struggle as incompatibility or the "reality check" and of course, eventually.. LEAVE. (We almost did too, like 459 times in the past 4 years)

AND THAT'S WHERE WE COME IN.

NOW.

We know not all couples have the gift to spend 24/7 together for 4 full years and go through this tuning/balancing process of masculine & feminine & mastering the skill to love unconditionally in such a raw and intense way.

We did that for you, so that you don't have to. (I mean we didn't know that at the time, but looking back after 4 years, we see it and shout out gratefully every morning out of the balcony - sorry neighbors - THANK GOD!!! ALL THAT CHALLENGING TIMES WERE WORTH IT!!! :D )

And after this intense 4 year long (and counting) daily school of ~~life~~ LOVE, where we have:

studied our brains out
hired coaches & healers
learned energy healing & been practicing it daily
meditated in jungles
threw tantrums
cried
ran away and returned
journaled through our subconscious in 40 notebooks (literally)
held hours & hours of uncomfortable conversations
roller-coastered the whole spectrum of emotions
spent weeks in "caves"
tried & failed & got up again 49749 times
disconnected and connected million times over....

WE NEVER CHOSE TO BREAK UP.

And by choosing to stay and go through it all, we gained the experience, wisdom, learned & created our own daily tools & practices we are ready to share with the World, so that we all learn how to CREATE & RESTORE THE CONNECTION & BALANCE between feminine & masculine once and for all.

Because love is not this random matchmaking game of "let's see where it takes us" or "hopefully we'll work it out". Love is choice.

And there's no greater gift than LOVE.

Love that heals.
Love that thrives.
Love, where you are both giving and receiving, leading and supporting, expressing and nurturing.
LOVE, WHERE MASCULINE & FEMININE ENERGIES ARE IN BALANCE.

So let me ask you this:

Are you ready to unleash a journey of healing, growth, and thriving relationships?
Are you ready to become powerful, conscious creator of your own life, resulting in a peaceful & nourishing relationship with your partner?
Are you ready to FREE yourself from the misbalanced relationship full of doubts & constant cycles of ups and downs and actually CREATE partnership more fulfilling you ever knew was even possible?

If you answered yes for any of the above questions, here are a few options on where to start depending on what you feel resonates most with you at this moment:

OPTION A) As a form of the physical manifestation of the CHOICE you just decided to make - starting the journey you 2 are on together - balancing your masculine & feminine energies into limitless power of harmony, you can get Magnetic Couples Bracelets for you & your love. You can see it as the ultimate conscious initiation of the process of creating your love, not just winging it cluelessly.

OPTION B) You can listen to our Connection Unlocked podcast that will empower you to learn, heal & grow together and most of all - MASTER the skill of creating love, not just hoping for it to "somehow work out". All based on "been there, done that" perspective (remember we went through all the possible fuckups that can happen in a relationship?)

OPTION C) Play our connection games and bring out the children you never stopped being deep inside (play is the best teacher, we r all secretly 4 year olds!)

OPTION D) Binge-watch our Instagram instead of Netflix and see what happens.

Well my love..

You attracted this into your life and we are sooooo freaking excited to support you on this journey!

You are ready for this upgrade and for that, we celebrate you.

Welcome home. Today is the day everything changes for you, your partner and the world around you.

Love,

Martina & Tomash

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